Anxiety – Who Cares?

Whenever Mom gets to feeling anxious – which happens to her a lot – she looks at me and asks, “What is that thing we say?” and, knowing just what she means, I say, “So what.”

“Yes,” she sighs, sinking back into her pillows. “So what.”

What we mean is: So what that I am feeling this way or that way? There is no story here – no drama to get caught up in.

There is no need to spin ourselves into a frenzy trying to figure out WHY she is feeling anxious. We don’t need to know the cause or the cure.

All of that just holds our attention on the anxiety – which gives it more power – and makes it increase.

We’ve found that when we meet her anxiety with our secret code, asking, “So what?” the anxiety just sits there, not bothering anyone.

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  • Susan
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    That is beautiful, precise and incredibly insightful. Well done for both you and your mother.

    • Amy
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      Thank you! And thanks for stopping by to leave a comment.

  • Sara
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    Such a helpful easy way to stop the spinning. I want to remember it in the middle of the night and tell my husband too. THank you.

    • Amy
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      It really does help – the mind needs to rest, too. :)

  • Barb
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    So simple. I can hear you saying the words. This is one to remember…

    • Amy
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      As I hear your voice, dear friend, in this comment.

  • Sheila Bergquist
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    I suffer terribly from anxiety and am going to remember these words and try them. Thanks.

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