What if there really is no enemy?

What if there really is no enemy? What if, even the people you are at war with, are just like you – scared, worried about the world, in love with their children? What if they trust you about as much as you trust them?

How do we meet this? How do we meet them? Can we shift this ‘enemy’ into ‘not an enemy’?

What about the enemy that lives in your own family: the annoying cousin, the controlling aunt, the sibling who sees the world so differently, the spouse who won’t properly park the car (or do the dishes, or make the bed, or fold the laundry) to your specifications.

What about

  • the teacher who fails your kid
  • the nurse’s aide who is rude to your father
  • the ‘helpful’ aunt who criticizes your husband

Is that the enemy?

How about

  • the farmer whose pesticides are damaging the environment
  • the CEO who ships your job to Asia
  • the politician whose policies make your hair stand on end
  • the woman dragging her crying child through the grocery store by the arm

It’s so easy to judge – to make assumptions.

So easy to make enemies – to wish they’d all go away, to convince ourselves that the world would be a better, brighter place without them. Yet, here they are, sharing the world with us – and here we are, at war with them (at least inside of our own hearts and minds.)

How do we meet their presence – meet them – without going to war against them? How do we meet the people and things we don’t like about the world without using their differences as an excuse to shift our own energy, our own space in the world, from love to fear?

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Deb McCarthy

I am sure — positive — that “ordinary” people the world over ARE just like us and we are just like them. You need only bring to mind people you have met of other nationalities, socio economic levels, gender and creed to know this. It is easy to see fear – and Love – in anyone’s eyes — anyone’s. But there does exist that elusive thing called “power” with a small “p”. That word encompasses so many concepts, not the least of which are greed and jealousy. The Power of Love is stronger than any other power, though. It will just take a conscious and concerted effort to become aware of, openly use and promote, and share this Love Power — individually, and collectively as lovers of peace — to overcome the powers of greed, jealousy and hatred. Most of us, as “ordinary” human beings, simply want to simply live. To have the basics of family, friends, food and shelter met. Most of us, as “ordinary” human beings, neither want nor need to have it all or to rule the world. We must make this clear through acts of Love and through prayer. Concsiously. Collectively. Constantly.



Love power! Yes! thank you for your very thoughtful comment. :)


Alexandra Telluselle

Awesome reminder. Love is the foundation of existence and any display of something contrary is just a call that they need more loving-kindness-compassion while still affirming what they need to change in their behavior to own responsibility not only for oneself but what one does towards others.



Love really is the foundation isn’t it? To me, the real call here is to accept the other as is. In this way, their changing or not changing does not separate me from peace.



Thank you for this, Amy. I’m just reading through again, filling in internal ‘enemies’ as well. Bad habits, lacks, failings etc etc – as if by magic, your post applies beautifully to all that, too.



It does apply to all of that, yes – to all of those ‘enemies’ that lurk inside our minds. Thank you for reminding us!


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