“Yes,” she sighs, sinking back into her pillows. “So what.”
What we mean is: So what that I am feeling this way or that way? There is no story here – no drama to get caught up in.
There is no need to spin ourselves into a frenzy trying to figure out WHY she is feeling anxious. We don’t need to know the cause or the cure.
All of that just holds our attention on the anxiety – which gives it more power – and makes it increase.
We’ve found that when we meet her anxiety with our secret code, asking, “So what?” the anxiety just sits there, not bothering anyone.