Erin Margolin: Wisdom never stops

Erin Margolin has a gift for telling emotionally resonant stories with insight, humor and disarming candor. She is honest and often, raw, insisting on pushing herself outside the boundaries of comfort, of what other people may (or may not) consider ‘appropriate’ to create stories that often leave me breathless – and always leave me inspired.

When I met Erin in real life at Sarah Robinson’s “Creating Irresistible Presence” conference in Atlanta, she was warm and genuine – but I knew that, already a fan of her writing.

We sat together, learning to let our ‘superpowers’ out of hiding, sharing lunches and some tears – and I’m pretty sure I gave her my cold.

To me, Erin’s is the wisdom of outrageous courage – she has a homing instinct for truth – and deep strength (though she’ll deny that part). Here is a true warrior..  of love, fiercely determined to create love, find love, and bring more love to this world.

When I invited Erin to be part of the Wisdom Series, I had no idea that she was experiencing a truly miraculous ‘awakening’ of her own.

I am pleased and proud to introduce her to you:

* * *

Shhhhhh. Come a little closer and I shall share my sweet secret with you:

There is a little red bean growing in my womb, entirely on its own, of its own volition. Do Not Disturb! (it is a red bean b/c I am from New Orleans.)

Our little miracle, to be sure.

Little 'red bean'

Proof that I am very much the woman I never felt I was–capable of creating life without injections, crazy drug cocktails, needles in my ovaries and constant monitoring.

My body apparently works just fine, despite having failed me miserably on numerous occasions. Despite the diagnosis (polycystic ovaries), the doctors’ droning on and on about the merits of in-vitro fertilization in cases like mine, and despite being on birth control. A-hem. Yes, yes I was. Maybe I’ve finally let go of all that stuff. For good? I don’t know.

All those years wasted blaming and berating myself, thinking I was LESS of a woman, LESS of a mother, just…lots of less.

But all at once, because of a little red bean, less is the new MORE.

I’m happier now than I could have ever imagined. Wisdom and perspective are my new best friends. The possibilities are endless: I can get pregnant on my own (read: miracle)! I radiate femininity, it’s oozing from my every pore; I even have an aura (it’s hot pink, in case there was any doubt). I am woman after all.

The wonderment I feel as I watch my own body adapt so quickly; it knows, remembers.  It thinks: I’ve done this before. And I’m supposed to do it again. Quietly, readily, it shifts to take on this role. My belly is rounding. My breasts are swollen and tender. I’m utterly exhausted. My stomach rolls and shudders. At long last, after all this time, my body is surpassing my greatest expectations. It’s tending to the miracle we created.

The little bean has been around for ten weeks. It has a strong heartbeat. While it’s making me queasy, tired and a teensy bit irritable, it’s also made me believe again—in myself, in G-d, and in magic and miracles. Three is a magic number, you know. I am going to be the mother of three. This baby was meant to be.

And if I lose the red bean? Then it’s better I’ve revealed its existence here because I will need your support and love all the more afterwards.

What I Know For Sure:

Wisdom is recognizing that there’s so much I/we don’t know, and we shouldn’t be afraid to admit it. Wisdom is respecting all of that, but at the same time not letting it limit us.

Wisdom is confessing that I’m scared to death this little bean won’t be mine in the end. That it will get taken away. I am relaxing into the fear, not letting it rule me. It is natural, this anxiety. But I have to stay positive for the red bean.

Wisdom is the knowledge that I am not in total control, that someone/something greater is. Wisdom comes in letting go….of fear, and of whatever holds us back.

Wisdom never stops. We never stop learning her lessons.

What have I learned? That my body bucks science, medicine. The Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. The myth that I can’t/don’t ovulate. I have relaxed. I have come into myself, into my own.

I am a writer.

I’m a mother.

I am Erin.

I am just me.

And I’m finally okay with that.

I love you, little bean. Stay with me.

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Erin is a displaced New Orleanian now living in the Land of Oz. She
speaks French (and hag) fluently. In addiiton to her writing skills, Erin makes a mean challah and can smell a bottle of chilled Chardonnay from 30 miles away. She’s been known to move things using the power of her mind. She writes at www.erinmargolin.com and tweets from @ErinMargolin.

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  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Hey Jennie! Yes, things were running slow for some people, glad it wasn’t just me. And love the way you turned around the “cases like yours.” I hadn’t considered that and LOVE IT! Thanks for coming by to read!
    😉

  • Lady Jennie
    Reply

    WOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWW!

    I tried to click over the other day but the link was too slow. So thrilled to hear this news. And not the least bit surprised as I know quite a few cases like yours. Turns out “cases like yours ” means something entirely different! 🙂

  • Elaine
    Reply

    This is truly a miracle! I mean every baby is in a sense but this one, well, just WOW. I get chills just thinking about how this pregnancy has changed you for the better. It makes me smile from ear to ear for you my friend! I will keep you and your little red bean in my prayers that he/she will continue to grow healthy and strong. Love ya!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you so much, Elaine! I’ll need all your tips on how to survive life with three.
      😉
      xoxoxo

  • Jessica
    Reply

    I understand this post so much Erin. I got pregnant with my youngest naturally after years of fertility treatments for our previous pregnancy and it was so healing for me to know that my body could actually do this on its own. I hope you find the same healing journey. Beautiful piece, so glad Amy shared your words here.

    • Erin Margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Jessica! It really was a surprise…I’d just assumed, even after all these years, that my body was incapable of doing anything like this. Such a wonder to me—and I’m still in shock! And also being cautious, praying, and being positive. Thank you so much for stopping by to read my post!
      xoxo

  • Theresa Sonoda
    Reply

    Erin, I am so happy for you! For your new little red bean and your new confidence AND your wisdom, which you possess in spades. Beautiful story. Makes me cry, but in a happy way. Pink dreams and princesses really do exist.
    Lovely!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Terri,

      Thank you, my sweet friend! Yes, dreams do come true—and I am so blessed! Also proud to be able to call you my friend. Thanks for coming to read this, it means a lot to me!
      xoxoxox

  • denise
    Reply

    I think I discovered Amy through you so it’s great to find your fabulous words here. As you know, I admire your honesty and writing prowess. I can feel that you are in “your own”. Owning you, all of you. Whenever I can do that, it’s so liberating. (If you don’t know it and love it already, check out Pearl Jam’s Just Breathe. Holy shit it’s powerful. Stay with me/you’re all I see/Did I say that I need you/Did I say that I want you. Spoiler alert: you will cry. )

    Much love,
    Denise

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Denise. You are such a sweetheart. I will have to check out that song later.
      I’m so glad you came by to read my post!
      😉
      xoxo

  • Reply

    Moving things with your mind… and your body defies science. Hmm… is that a coincidence? Me thinks not. I’m so happy for your bean, and for your courage to beleive in yourself again.

    Much love!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you dear Lisa! Thrilled to see your smiling face here, and am so happy you stopped by to read.

      😉
      xoxo

  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Thanks, Megan! I haven’t opened the book—have you?? too tired. lol!!! Thanks so much for reading!!!

    xoxo

  • Megan
    Reply

    ERIN!!! This is amazing and I’m so happy for your family! Can’t wait for our next bunko/book group so we can hear more about this miraculous story. Megan

  • angela
    Reply

    Congratulations! How exciting for you and your family 🙂

    I love the part about wisdom is letting go of what holds us back. It is so, so difficult for me to do that, and this post is a lovely reminder that some things are out of our hands, and that needs to be ok.

    Wear your hot pink aura with pride. Happy thoughts and prayers for you & your little bean.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Angela. Yes, we all need to work on the letting go part. I am sure I’m not done dealing with that demon. It’s so hard sometimes!

      But you’re right—some things are out of our hands. Which is also difficult for me b/c I’m Type A and very much like to be in control!

      😉
      Thanks for reading and for leaving me such kind comments!

  • Reply

    This is so exciting, Erin! Congratulations!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Cynthia! p.s. I know I haven’t been around much, but every time I look at my fleur de lis in my kitchen I think of you!
      xoxo

  • Dana Reeves
    Reply

    Erin! Congratulations!!! I am thrilled beyond words for you. I will hold you close in thoughts and prayers… LOVE YOU!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Dana,
      The computer ate my comment! Ack! thank you, sweet friend, for coming by to read. I appreciate the thoughts & prayers, and am so blessed to call you my friend!
      LOVE YOU!
      xoxoxoxox

  • Leigh vs laundry
    Reply

    So happy for Erin!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, sweet Leigh! Sorry I’ve been so MIA. I hope you are doing well! Thank you so much for coming by!
      😉

  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Dear Jane,

    Oh wow! I LOVE hearing stories like this! Miracles are indeed everywhere, aren’t they?! I am so happy for your beans, and congratulations on your baby granddaughter! What wonderful news, especially after such obstacles. Did you knwo that diabetes and PCOS are very closely related? I also have thyroid issues, which can impact fertility as well.

    Congratulations again, and thank you so very much for reading and leaving me such lovely comments!
    🙂

    • Reply

      Thankyou so much Erin, I will stay tuned for your updates. The kids did a lot of research about PCOS and such, all very interesting stuff. Yes, so true, miracles are everywhere! I’m glad you believe in them too. Forgot to tell you that my grandson’s nickname is ‘Bean’ (he’s almost 14 now). Best wishes for a lovely day, Huge hugs your way! Hello little bean – what a gorgeous picture! 🙂

  • Reply

    Dear Erin,
    I stumbled upon your Blog and wanted to leave a little note with love with a prayer for you and the beautiful little Bean. So precious to share journeys and your heart with others.
    Now my (3) little beans are grown and a precious baby grand daughter was born this morning. We’re thrilled and thankful. Daughter-in-law was told that it was likely she would never become pregnant due to diabetes complications (polycystic ovaries), then discovered only days later that she already was.
    How amazing life is every day. Thankyou for the reminder to enjoy every present moment.

  • Carrie
    Reply

    Congratulations! I wish you all the best on your journey with your little bean 🙂

  • Rebecca
    Reply

    Awwwwww.
    Blessings and hugs, Erin.

  • Julie
    Reply

    I love you my friend… and am praying for you and your bean! 🙂 I’m so excited for you… and sending my SIL to this post to be prepared for *anything*! The wisdom you shared warmed my heart – so glad that you see all of this and know who you are. So glad I can call you a friend.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Julie! I hope your SIL will read it when she has a chance! I’m lucky to be able to call you MY friend, too, and even luckier that we’ve met in person—and will hopefully meet again at another conference SOON!
      xoxoxo
      HUGS!

  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Thanks, Jackie! I always know I can count on my wonderful blog friends to have my back. Thank you so much for coming by to read, and for your kind words.
    xo

  • Heather O
    Reply

    I love my Erin, love the post Amy! Yeah for awakenings and your bean. 🙂

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Heather!! Thank you for coming by, reading & tweeting. Also love your little fishy that shows up in your comments! so cute, just like YOU! LOVE YOU!
      xoxoxo

  • Jackie
    Reply

    I wish you the best with your little bean! We’re all happy for you and are here for you no matter what the outcome.

  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Thank you, Jo! I’m excited that you came over to read and am blushing because you referred to me as “a wise woman.”
    😉

    Have a beautiful day and thanks again for stopping by!

  • jo miller
    Reply

    WOW!! that was absolutely amazing. You have a gift in getting your readers involved. that post was so real & so beautiful. It did indeed leave me breathless. xo Thank you wise woman.

  • Nancy C
    Reply

    Sweet friend,

    I will never look at a red bean the same way. Thank you for yet another small gift in that.

    My heart is so full of love for you, now and always.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Nancy, you sweet thing.
      A dear friend of mine gave me a silver bean necklace yesterday. I shall never take it off. It gives me hope I can carry this out. That I can do this. That this baby is sticking.

      Thank you. LOVE YOU!!!!!

  • Galit Breen
    Reply

    Oh Erin, I so admire your raw honesty and (wait for it!) wisdom. I’m sending all of the good thoughts that I’ve got to you, your hot pick aura and that sweet little red bean of yours!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Wisdom? Huh? You must have me confused with one of the previous contributors. Because if you go back and re-read this carefully? You’ll see that there’s so much I DON’T KNOW.
      😉

      And yay for hot pink auras!!!
      xoxoxoxo

  • Michelle Mangen
    Reply

    Erin:

    As always your writing touches deep into my heart and soul. I’ve told you many times before and I will continue to do so……I love how you open yourself to everything in your writing.

    I’m rooting for you and the little red bean.

    Your Friend,
    @mmangen

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Lovely Michelle,

      You are a sweetheart and it means a lot to me that you came by to tell me this. I don’t know what I’d do without friends like you! I hope one day we’ll get to meet in real life. I am lucky to have you!
      xoxo

  • Mindy
    Reply

    I am beyond thrilled by this revelation. Even though I haven’t struggled with infertility, I have faced that fear you’re expressing. And it’s an overwhelming cocktail of emotions. I’m so glad you are able to revel in the wonder of it all and celebrate the joy of your little bean. You are wonderful and I’m so grateful that you share so much of yourself, allow us in to celebrate with you. We’ll have to compare notes on three. I can tell already that it’s going to be an adventure at our house!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Mindy,

      It’s definitely going to be an adventure at our house, especially if it’s a boy! The girls are adamant that they want a little sister, desite my telling them we have no control over these things.
      😉
      We are working hard with them and will prepare them as much as we can before the big day comes. After that? I’m sure there will be an adjustment period, but am hopeful they will love the baby and enjoy being little helpers!

      Thanks so much for coming by to read!
      xo

  • Mama Zen
    Reply

    Congratulations, Erin!

  • julie
    Reply

    You are the mother of three. So beautiful.

    Congratulations on what this blessing has taught you already.

    Lucky mama. Lucky bean. Already.

    (p.s. I had always hoped to have an “oops” despite birth control – my first was a surprise like that; why couldn’t my third be, too? But my “oops” never came and I’ve always regretted not having a third. So excited for you. Truly.)

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Dear Julie,

      Thank you! I honestly still can’t believe I’m one of “those” people who got pregnant after everything we went through PLUS being on the pill! It doesn’t seem real. I am very lucky, and am doing all I can to take care of myself and the bean. I appreciate your coming by to read and leave me such lovely comments!

  • Laurie
    Reply

    Erin – What a beautiful testament to both your new baby and all mothers/women out there!! So happy for you!

    – Laurie
    http://www.carearing.com

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you so very much, Laurie! I appreciate your comments and your tweet, too!
      Have a wonderful day!

  • Amy Palko
    Reply

    So so happy for you and your family, Erin – what wonderful news. And thank you for sharing it (and your fears) in such an open-hearted way.
    Sending you, your hot pink aura and your little red bean much love
    Amy
    xx

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Dear Amy,

      Thank you so much! I feel the love, and appreciate it more than you know. I’m glad you came by to read. Amy’s done an amazing job and this series has been so fun!
      😉
      xo

  • Dan Margolin
    Reply

    It feels good to read about our bean!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      It feels good to see your comment here!
      😉
      I love you!

      • By Word of Mouth Musings
        Reply

        Of all the comments here – these two right here.
        These two made me smile the most. The keepers of the bean.
        Congratulations on this little thing, this little bean.
        But also on this big thing you have, it is SO big indeed …
        The writer that is you, too big to contain, you are bursting forth!

  • Cathy
    Reply

    Erin, I am so thrilled for your pregnancy. I know this is something that brings you great joy.

    But, the real miracle, is this: “I am just me. And I’m finally okay with that.” Words that all of us have been waiting for you to say. That brought tears to my eyes. This red bean is special, because it has allowed you to accept yourself.

    Much love to you you.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Cathy,

      You sweet doll, you. Love your comments, friend. You are a gem, you know that? I appreciate you. I don’t know that I could be this much “myself” without supportive readers like you. I am so lucky!
      😉
      xo

  • Tracie
    Reply

    You have the most beautiful way of revealing little bits of yourself to the world….with strength and grace and power. You make my heart smile, and you inspire me to be “more”.

    I am so very excited for you and your little red bean.

    You ARE wise…and when you are being “just you”, you are amazing!

    (Now I want to see you move something with the power of your mind!!)

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Tracie,

      I totally moved an egg out of my ovary and into my fallopian tubes! Well, actually, I didn’t, but somehow, some part of me did? Doesn’t that count? Also, I am excellent at moving Fritos into my mouth lately.

      Love you, Tracie. You are an amazing, inspiring woman and I’m lucky to call you my friend. I’m so glad you came over to read, and thank you for the tweets and FB mention, too!
      xoxo

      • Tracie
        Reply

        YES! That totally counts!!

        I’m excellent at the Fritos moving too….and I don’t have any pregnancy excuse to fall back on .

        xoxo Love you too!

  • Matty
    Reply

    Erin, when I think back to our early blogging days and how far you have come as a writer, mother and a person, I am in awe. That shy, timid blogger who lacked confidence in herself in many aspects now exudes confidence and courage. You’ve come a long way, and I enjoy reading you more now than ever before.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Oh Matty…
      I think you just made my week. I mean YEAR!
      I am so flattered and really speechless.
      I’ve been working hard on my writing and trying not to post “drivel” anymore…and thinking hard about where I want to go with this “stuff.” I’m happy it shows and I’m ecstatic that you enjoy reading!
      Thank you, Matty!

  • KLZ
    Reply

    I love your little red bean too. It was made from rice and love.

    (Part of that is a dirty joke and that is just how I show my love for you.)

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      hmmm. Rice? I think that is lost on me and you will have to explain. Especially since it doesn’t involve a banana?
      Smirk.

      LOVE YOU!

  • Sherri
    Reply

    Beautiful my friend, just beautiful!

    And isn’t this just the best place to lay out your news?

    You are all woman, babe…no question about it.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Yes, when Amy first talked to me about this, I thought it would be the perfect time/place to reveal my secret. Which is now definitely not a secret anymore.
      😉
      (all because of you and your peer pressure to reveal! LOL!)
      just kidding. You know I love you, Sherri!

  • Ami
    Reply

    Oh, Erin! I’m so happy for you. Both for your little red bean, growing in your womb, and for the creativity and openness that has grown leaps and bounds since we first met. You’re such a beautiful person and I’m so thankful to be able to call you my friend (even if we’ve never met in person). Big hugs to you!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Big hugs, Ami! I am proud to be able to call you MY friend, too! Thrilled that we met on Twitter way back when and that I’ve learned so much from you along the way. You are an inspiration. Thanks so much for coming over to read! p.s. you should check out the other posts in the series if you haven’t already—they are STUNNING!
      xo

  • Ally
    Reply

    Aww, I’ve already told you, but I’ll tell you again. I’m thrilled for your little red bean and your family, and most of all for YOU. For everything it is, everything it represents, everything I know you are. Congrats.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Ally! Thank you, my darling friend!
      Swelling at your generous words.
      And wondering if this baby will play with your old Barbie toys, too—or if it will perhaps want a train set instead?
      😉

      xoxo

  • Kir
    Reply

    even knowing your news didn’t make the Rush of excitement any less for you as I read it. Your words are just so beautiful, written with care and “Wisdom”.

    My favorite number is 3 and as I read that 3 is a Magic number my heart just swelled , that you will get that 3rd baby for your own.

    What a beautiful way to celebrate the miracle you’ve been blessed with.
    xo

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Do you know that song, Kirsten? My girls love that song by Jack Johnson, and whenever we listen to it? I want to cry.

      I keep thinking this is a dream…and that I’ll wake up and it won’t be real. Or that the bean will go away. I’m doing everything I can right now to rest, relax, and not stress myself out. We’ll see if that helps things.

      😉

      I’m also scared of the third, in a way—because I’ve never dealt with just one baby. I’m nervous…but also excited. I won’t have to juggle babies this time around. What an odd feeling!

  • Sally
    Reply

    Good morning Erin! Thank you so much for this beautiful start to my day. I’m thrilled that this gift of your ‘red bean’ has affirmed all that you’re growing to know about your Self. Oh, the things you will teach each other!

    Letting Go, Surrender – such powerful and courageous acts; the stuff of Warriors. I do think that’s an apt description of you ~ and also, you hold the capacity for tenderness, compassion, softness and receptivity. Glorious is what you are.

    There’s a quote I like from Joan Borysenko’s A Woman’s Journey to God that speaks to the process many of us go through when seeking contact with our own Wisdom within. It is this:

    When we learn to trust ourselves … we become a healing and revealing presence to those around us. They know themselves more fully because of who we are. Our presence is like the sun that causes plants to reach upwards for the light. Through other people’s relationship to our authentic Spiritual Selves, we ourselves are mutually mirrored and revealed, deepened and expanded. In this intimate place of being, the heart’s true home, we reach the culmination of the journey through one another.

    Sometimes we serve as the Sun, sometimes we desperately need the Sun ~ at all times, we’ll do just fine; so long as we always reach upwards for the light.

    Many blessings to you and your family. Always …

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Sally,

      Your comments are making me cry. I’ve never seen myself as “glorious,” but I can’t help but think the little bean could stand some positive reinforcement like that!

      And I do desperately need and seek the Sun. I want the warmth, want to radiate it and feel it at the same time. Is that possible? Spring hasn’t fully come to Kansas yet—we had snow over the weekend and this week has been grey and cold. I long for Sun and light and birds chirping.

      Thank you, Sally. I’m so glad I’ve really connected with you through Amy’s series!
      😉

  • daune
    Reply

    And THERE IT IS.

    I’m fearful that any words I say may mess up what my heart wants to tell you.

    This post is simply stunning and the absolute most favorite thing I have read from you.

    This one, where you so clearly love “you”—-which so clearly bleeds over into all those around you.

    Love to you and your red bean, sweet Erin. xoxo

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Sweet, sweet Daune—

      You could never “mess up,” love. You just left me the best comment ever. I love that you loved this so much.
      I have a giant smile plastered on my face!
      Thank you for coming over to read and for leaving me these kind words.

      xo

  • Suzanne
    Reply

    Sweet, precious tale about you and your bean (I have been blessed with five beautiful beans myself) I’m sure everything will be fine and you’ll be reading this to him (or her) someday and it will be cherished. Like you wrote..this baby is meant to be!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Suzanne! I love that you have five beans—you are a busy mama! I’m so excited that you came by and left me a comment. I feel so honored to be here today!
      😉

  • Alexandra
    Reply

    From my first visit at Erin’s, I knew she could spin a tale, and retell a tale.

    She is the awesome. And very special to me.

    You know I”m happy for your family, E, so very much.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, Empress. You always manage to make me blush with your kind words. I love that you say I can “spin a tale!” Makes me happy!

  • Evonne
    Reply

    Oh Erin, I am so happy for you!!! I believe miracles can happen and this is proof. You are a very wise woman.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Thank you, sweet lady! I’m not sure I’m “wise,” per se, but I’ve definitely gained some insights. Thank you so much for stopping by to read and comment!

  • erin margolin
    Reply

    Susan,

    I know–isn’t this series awesome (and I don’t mean me/my post, I’ve been quite humbled by all the other women’s contributions)? Amy has incredible ideas and I love how this one has blossomed.

    Thank you so much for coming by, for reading, for sharing & commenting!
    😉

  • liz
    Reply

    You told this tale so perfectly, but most importantly, I’m so happy for YOU!

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Liz,
      Thank you so much! I really appreciate your stopping by to read, and for sharing the post on Twitter!
      😉

      HUGS!

  • Tina @ Life Without Pink
    Reply

    Wow Erin congratulations, this is so wonderful!

  • Susan Donegan
    Reply

    Erin – Congratulations and thank you for introducing your lil’ red bean to all of us here!

    You are all woman and I can hear you roaring!

    Amy – have really enjoyed this series, what a wonderful collection of writers, story tellers and amazing women you have shared – thank you!

    Peace,
    Susan

  • Andrea Maurer
    Reply

    Wow, Erin! How wonderful for you and your family. How miraculous, on so many levels! I predict the bean will indeed make his/her entry into this world. He/She has already worked so hard to defy the odds. A daredevil! How, ahem, nice for you… 😉 Congratulations! On the new baby, yes. But more importantly, on stepping into your wisdom and your power and all your are capable of.

    • erin margolin
      Reply

      Oooh, a daredevil! I hadn’t thought of it that way—and now I’m a little worried!! The little bean shall wreak total havoc on our household, yes? Oy!

      Thank you so much, Andrea, for reading my post and leaving me such thoughtful, inspiring comments.

  • Victoria KP
    Reply

    Congratulations on your wonderful news. This was so beautifully written–thank you for sharing!

    “And if I lose the red bean? Then it’s better I’ve revealed its existence here because I will need your support and love all the more afterwards.” I used to tell people the same thing when I announced my pregnancies (about 15 minutes after I saw 2 pink lines) for the very same reason. Although I didn’t say it quite so well :-).

    • erin margolin
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      YES! SO relieved I’m not the only one who has trouble keeping good news to myself. And it’s so true—if I didn’t tell anyone and kept it all inside? Then what if there was a negative outcome? How would I get the support I’d need?

      Anyway, I can’t contain it any longer, too excited!

  • Angel
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    Erin you already know I love you. I found it funny that you say you are on birth control and still find yourself with your little red bean. The only time I could ever get pregnant was ON birth control. Including the depo shot. The doctor basically told me that for me personally Birth control was my own little fertilizer in a sense. Weird huh. I am so excited for you, so excited and sending tons of baby dust that you get to hold that little red bean…

    • erin margolin
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      Dear Angel,

      So pleased to see your smiling face over here this morning! You know what’s funny? I never thought I’d be one of “those” stories, the ones you always hear about people getting pregnant after infertility or on the Pill. Yet somehow I managed to be BOTH of these people. It really is a miracle!
      Thank you for the baby dust! Send truckloads!

  • nicole willis
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    Erin, my lovely friend! You are all WOMAN! You are so courageous to share your wisdom with all of us. Thank you!

    It is really remarkable to witness the letting go of all that holds you back as your wings have strengthened and you trust them! Don’t look now my rounding out friend….you are soaring for all the world to see and even more importantly for your now little three!

    Welcome little bean! Sending great big hugs to your mommy and lots of love & light for you as you prepare to join this world very soon!

    Wisdom and gratitude are always with us….you live that truth and I am honored to know you!

    Much love!

    • erin margolin
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      Ahhhh, Nicole! Thank you so very much, my lovely friend. I forgot the most important line: I AM ENOUGH I HAVE ENOUGHNESS.
      Thanks to you, that is.

      I am honored to be here and so flattered that you came by to read!
      HUGS!

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